The Becoming You Podcast

The 3 Rituals That Anchor Your Day (Even When Life Feels Chaotic)

In this episode of the Becoming You Podcast, Lisa Hardis discusses three essential rituals that can anchor your day amidst chaos. These rituals focus on self-love, intention, and mindfulness, providing practical ways to reconnect with oneself. Lisa emphasizes the importance of belief in the effectiveness of these rituals and encourages listeners to start small, adapting the rituals to their personal lives. The conversation covers the significance of morning anchors, midday resets, and evening closures, all aimed at fostering emotional well-being and grounding in daily life.
Takeaways:
Rituals are simple, meaningful touch points for daily life.
Belief in the ritual is crucial for its effectiveness.
Morning anchors help set intentions for the day.
Midday resets interrupt negative thought spirals.
Evening closures provide necessary rest and reflection.
Rituals do not require perfect conditions to be effective.
Start with one ritual and adapt it to your life.
Awareness is key to recognizing when to reset.
Rituals help maintain connection to oneself during chaos.
You are always worthy of self-care and attention.
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Rituals for Daily Anchoring04:01 The Importance of Morning Anchors08:05 Midday Resets: Finding Calm in Chaos12:21 Evening Closure: Releasing the Day
 
Connect with Lisa:
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TikTok →   / thelisahardie  
YouTube →  Watch our Podcast Here!
Join The Joyful Mom Collective → Join the Collective Here!
Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → www.lisahardiecoaching.com

The Real Reason You Feel Behind (It’s Not Time Management)

Do you constantly feel behind, even when you’re doing everything you’re supposed to be doing?
In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest misconceptions moms carry: that feeling behind means you’re bad at time management. The truth is, most moms aren’t struggling because they’re disorganized or undisciplined, they’re struggling because they’re carrying an invisible mental and emotional load that never turns off.
If you’ve ever felt like your brain is always running, even when you finally sit down to rest… this episode is for you.
We talk about what mental load really is, why traditional productivity and time-management advice often misses the mark for moms, and how invisible labor and emotional responsibility contribute to chronic overwhelm. Most importantly, we unpack why feeling behind does not mean you’re failing, and how to release that belief with compassion.
This episode isn’t about doing more or fixing your life overnight. It’s about understanding what you’re carrying, why it feels so heavy, and learning how to reduce mental load in a way that fits real life.
You’ll also learn a simple, practical reset you can implement today to help quiet the mental noise, externalize what you’re holding in your head, and begin creating relief without adding more to your plate.
If you’re tired of feeling like you can’t keep up, and ready for a more supportive, realistic approach, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.
 
In This Episode, We Cover:
Why feeling “behind” has very little to do with time management
What mental load actually is (and why it’s so exhausting for moms)
Invisible labor and emotional overwhelm no one talks about
Why rest doesn’t feel restful when your mind won’t shut off
How shame and self-blame add to burnout
A simple, actionable way to reduce mental load starting today
How to reframe the belief that you’re failing with compassion
Why carrying less, not doing more, is the real solution
 
Chapters:
00:00:00     Introduction and Welcome
00:03:00     The Feeling of Falling Behind
00:09:00     Understanding Mental Load
00:15:00     Practical Steps to Manage Load
00:21:00     Changing Your Relationship with Pressure
00:27:00     Conclusion and Encouragement
 
Next Steps
If this episode resonated with you:
Share it with someone who might need this reminder
Follow the podcast so you don’t miss upcoming conversations
And if you’re looking for a supportive space where these topics continue, you’re always welcome inside my free community/collective (linked below)
 
Connect with Lisa:
Instagram →   / thelisaannecoaching
TikTok →   / thelisahardie  
YouTube →  Watch our Podcast Here!
Join The Joyful Mom Collective → Join the Collective Here!
Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → www.lisahardiecoaching.com
 

Habits vs. Rituals: Why One Sticks and the Other Actually Changes Your Life

Have you ever set a habit with the best intentions… only to watch it slowly fade away?
If you’ve ever wondered why some changes never seem to stick, especially in seasons where life already feels full, you’re not alone. And it’s not because you lack discipline or motivation.
In this episode, we explore the powerful difference between habits and rituals, and why understanding that distinction can change the way you approach growth, self-care, and consistency (especially as a mom).
Drawing inspiration from the work of Michael Bungay Stanier, author of The Coaching Habit, this conversation reframes behaviour change in a way that feels realistic, compassionate, and sustainable. We talk about why resistance is a normal part of change, how to design around it, and why returning matters more than staying perfect.
You’ll also hear a personal story about skincare, not as an anti-aging routine, but as a ritual rooted in self-worth, nervous system regulation, and the belief that you deserve to be taken care of.
This episode is an invitation to stop forcing change, and start supporting yourself instead.
 
In This Episode, We Cover:
The key difference between habits and rituals, and why it matters
Why habits often fall apart in real life (especially for moms)
How rituals create meaning, flexibility, and self-trust
Why resistance is inevitable when trying something new
How to work with resistance instead of fighting it
Why starting small and easy makes change more sustainable
The power of support and not doing change alone
Why slipping doesn’t mean failing, and how returning creates real progress
 
Key Takeaway:
You don’t need more discipline or a full life overhaul. You need habits and rituals that meet you where you are, and permission to return without guilt when life gets messy.
 
Chapters:
0:00   Introduction and Acknowledgment1:54    Habits vs. Rituals4:28   Personal Example: Skincare8:12   The Power of Rituals9:48   Working with Resistance11:54  Community and Support13:01  Conclusion and Call to Action
Next Steps
If this episode resonated with you:
Share it with someone who might need this reminder
Follow the podcast so you don’t miss upcoming conversations
And if you’re looking for a supportive space where these topics continue, you’re always welcome inside my free community (linked below)
 
Connect with Lisa:
Instagram →   / selflovecoachingco  
TikTok →   / thelisahardie  
Join The Joyful Mom Collective → Join the Collective Here!
Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → www.lisahardiecoaching.com

Why "Me Time" Doesn't Work for Moms

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In this episode, we’re talking about the truth behind “me time”, and why it often doesn’t work for moms the way we’re told it should.
So much self-care advice assumes life is calm, predictable, and manageable. But what happens when it’s not? When you’re navigating grief, stress, caregiving, emotional exhaustion, or simply carrying the weight of everything that needs to get done?
Lisa shares openly about her own recent season of loss and uncertainty, including the passing of her grandmother, her dad being in the ICU, and spending much of Christmas at the hospital. Through this experience, she reflects on why me time can feel impossible (and even ineffective), when it’s unplanned, unprotected, and treated as an afterthought.
This episode explores the shift from accidental self-care to intentional self-support, and why planning for yourself before the week begins can be a powerful act of self-respect. Lisa introduces the concept of Monday Hour One, also known as Sunday Service Sessions, as a gentle, compassionate way to check in with yourself, protect your energy, and create space for care — even when life feels heavy.
You’ll hear why starting with your own needs matters, how to treat your personal care like a non-negotiable appointment, and how intentional planning can help you feel supported inside your life instead of constantly trying to escape it.
This is a grounded, honest conversation for moms who are tired of feeling like they’re failing at self-care and are ready for something that actually works in real life.
If this episode resonated with you, you’re invited to join Lisa’s free community, where she hosts workshops and live Sunday Service Sessions to help moms intentionally create space for themselves. Some features are available through a paid membership for those who want deeper support, but the heart of the community is connection, compassion, and doing this together.
✨ You are worth showing up for. Always.
 
Takeaways
Self-care is often seen as a luxury for moms, but it's essential.
'Me time' can feel impossible to achieve amidst chaos.
Life doesn't pause for self-care; it requires planning.
Intentional self-care is more effective than accidental moments.
Moms often carry a heavier emotional and mental load.
Scheduling self-care should be treated as non-negotiable.
Community support can enhance self-care practices.
Grief and stress significantly impact self-care capacity.
You deserve more than just scraps of rest.
You are worth showing up for yourself.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Its Purpose
00:26 The Challenge of 'Me Time' for Moms
04:25 Intentional Self-Care: Planning Ahead
09:42 Creating a Supportive Week: The Importance of Structure
11:46 Community Support and Conclusion
 
 
Connect with Lisa:
    Instagram →  / selflovecoachingco  
    TikTok →  / thelisahardie  
Join The Joyful Mom Collective → https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about
Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → https://www.selflovecoachingco.com

Mini Episode: Rest Is Not A Setback

This is a softer, gentler episode.
Today’s episode is a reminder that rest is not a setback. It’s care, maintenance, and self-respect. If you’ve been feeling tired, overwhelmed, or stretched thin, this short check-in is here to remind you that slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind.
Especially as moms, we’re conditioned to push through and keep going, even when our bodies and hearts are asking for a pause. This episode is an invitation to listen, to release the guilt around rest, and to remember that you don’t need to earn your worth through productivity.
Consider this your permission slip to slow down, breathe, and choose yourself - even just for a moment.
Short. Gentle. Exactly what you might need today.Connect with Lisa:
Instagram →   / selflovecoachingco  
TikTok →   / thelisahardie  
Join The Joyful Mom Collective → https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-...
 
Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → https://www.selflovecoachingco.com
 
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Filling Your Cup This Holiday Season

In the final episode of The Calm Mom Season holiday series, we’re talking about something moms rarely give themselves permission to do - receiving the same care they give everyone else.
This episode takes an honest, compassionate look at the reality of motherhood during the holidays: the invisible labour, the mental overload, the overstimulation, the guilt around resting, and the pressure to be “on” even when you're completely drained.
We explore the science behind why this season feels so heavy, why rest is a biological necessity (not a luxury), and how to regulate your nervous system in tiny, realistic moments that actually make a difference, especially for single moms or moms without a lot of support.
This episode will help you:
Understand why holiday overwhelm hits so hard
Release guilt around slowing down or saying no
Recognize the signs of nervous system overload
Create small grounding rituals that regulate your stress response
Navigate overstimulation and emotional fatigue with more compassion
Shift from performance to presence
Give yourself permission to take up space this season
Whether your holidays are busy, bittersweet, complicated, joyful, or somewhere in between, this episode is your reminder that you deserve peace too.
 
Reflection Prompt:What do I need this season to feel at peace?
Weekly Challenge:Schedule one act of self-love this week — and protect it like any other important commitment.
 
Be sure share this will your mom friend and follow the podcast so you don't miss any future episodes.
 
Connect with Lisa:
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TikTok →   / thelisahardie  
Join Our Collective → The Joyful Mom Collective
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Why Perfect Moments Don’t Matter - This Does

So many moms move through the holidays carrying a weight they never talk about — the weight of trying to create “perfect” moments for everyone else.
The perfect holiday.The perfect mood.The perfect memory.
But here’s the truth we dive into in this episode:
Perfect moments don’t matter.The real ones do.And most moms are unintentionally missing them.
In this week’s Calm Mom Season holiday series episode, we explore the quiet pressure that pulls moms out of the present and into performance, and how to reclaim the moments that actually matter.
This conversation is honest, grounding, and deeply human.If you’ve ever found yourself rushing, fixing, curating, or trying too hard to “make it magical,” this episode will feel like someone putting a hand on your back and saying, “You can breathe now.”
✨ Inside this episode, we talk about:
Why moms often miss the very moments they’re trying to create
The emotional root of perfectionism during the holidays
A personal story that shifted my entire perspective
What real presence looks like in everyday motherhood (it’s messy and beautiful)
How to slow down enough to actually experience your life
A grounding 5-minute presence practice you can use anywhere
This week’s Calm Mom challenge: a no-phone night or a slow morning
The thing your family remembers long after the moment is gone
✨ This episode will help you:
release pressure
soften your expectations
reconnect with what actually matters
feel more human and less “held together”
find calm in the middle of real life, not after it
This is your invitation to stop chasing perfect…and start living the moment you’re in.
Press play when you’re ready to feel lighter.
Be sure share this will your mom friend and follow the podcast so you don't miss any future episodes.
 
Connect with Lisa:
Instagram →   / selflovecoachingco  
TikTok →   / thelisahardie  
Website → www.selflovecoachingco.com

The Calm Mom Holiday Series: The Pressure to Be Merry

The holidays are here… and while this season is often painted as joyful and magical, the reality for many moms is far more complex. In today’s episode of The Becoming You Podcast, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally charged experiences of the holiday season: the pressure to be merry — even when you’re not.
This episode comes at a deeply personal moment. My grandma recently passed away, and I’ve been navigating grief in a season that’s supposed to be filled with cheer. I share openly about what this feels like, how emotional pressure shows up for moms, and why so many women feel obligated to be “happy” during the holidays even when life is heavy.
If you’ve ever found yourself smiling through stress, pushing down your feelings to keep the peace, or pretending you’re fine just because it’s Christmas…this episode is for you.
 
Chapters:
00:00 - Navigating the Holiday Pressure
07:32 - Embracing Authentic Emotions
10:55 - The Magic of Being You
 
Mentioned in this episode:🩷 Join The Joyful Mom Collective, a supportive space for moms to reconnect with themselves, find joy, and live with balance and self-love. It’s the perfect Christmas gift for you.👉 Learning more about the Collective HERE
 
Reflection for this week:Where have I been forcing myself to be “merry,” and what do I actually need emotionally right now?
 
Challenge:Allow yourself to feel one emotion fully without judging it or pushing it down.Name it.Acknowledge it.Let it exist without apologizing for it.
 
Connect with Lisa:
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/selflovecoachingco
TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thelisahardie
Website → www.selflovecoachingco.com
 
🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with a friend who needs a little reminder: You are worth showing up for. Always.
 

The Calm Mom Holiday Series: Finding Calm in the Holiday Chaos

The holidays are here, and while they’re supposed to be filled with joy and connection, sometimes they feel more like chaos and overwhelm. Between the planning, the shopping, and the pressure to make everything perfect, it’s easy to lose sight of what this season is really about.
In this first episode of The Calm Mom Holiday Series, Lisa opens up about the first time she hosted Christmas, how she tried to do it all herself, what happened when she didn’t accept help, and the powerful lesson she learned about perfection, peace, and letting go.
If you’ve ever felt the pressure to make the holidays “just right,” this episode is your permission slip to slow down, release control, and find moments of calm, right in the middle of the mess.
You’ll learn:✨ How to let go of perfection and find peace in imperfection✨ Why asking for help is a form of self-love (not weakness)✨ Simple ways to ground yourself when things feel chaotic✨ How to create your own “peaceful pause ritual” this season
Mentioned in this episode:🩷 Join The Joyful Mom Collective, a supportive space for moms to reconnect with themselves, find joy, and live with balance and self-love. It’s the perfect Christmas gift for you.👉 Learning more about the Collective HERE
 
Reflection for this week:What would my most peaceful holiday season feel like?
Challenge:Create one peaceful pause ritual this week to ground yourself and bring calm back into your day.
 
Connect with Lisa:
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/selflovecoachingco
TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thelisahardie
Website → www.selflovecoachingco.com
 
🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with a friend who needs a little reminder: You are worth showing up for. Always.
 

How to Let Go of the Guilt and Finally Feel Free

This episode of The Becoming You Podcast was released on November 11th, Remembrance Day.Before diving in, Lisa takes a moment to pause and acknowledge the brave men and women who have served and sacrificed for our freedom. Their courage is a reminder of the strength, resilience, and peace we’re all capable of finding within ourselves.
From there, she dives into one of the most universal struggles so many of us face, guilt. That heavy, exhausting feeling that tells you you’re not doing enough; whether as a mom, a partner, or even just as a person trying your best.
In this honest and heartfelt episode, Lisa Hardie, Self-Love and Life Coach, opens up about her own journey through mom guilt and the deep self-blame she carried after her marriage ended. Through vulnerability and reflection, she shares what helped her release the weight of guilt and finally find peace, not by being perfect, but by forgiving herself.
You’ll learn:
Why guilt isn’t proof that you care, it’s proof that you’re human
How mom guilt and self-blame shape your identity
What really happens in your brain when guilt becomes chronic
Four powerful mindset shifts to reframe and release guilt
How to turn guilt into gratitude and self-compassion
Lisa reminds us that you can’t carry both guilt and growth, one keeps you stuck in the past, the other helps you move forward.
🎧 Tune in to learn how to forgive yourself, let go of what’s weighing you down, and start living in the “what now” instead of the “should have.”
✨ Plus, stay tuned for a preview of next week’s episode — the start of Lisa’s new four-part series: “How to Calm the Chaos During the Holidays.”
 
Mentioned in this episode:
🌸 The Joyful Mom Collective: A supportive community for moms ready to let go of guilt, embrace joy, and rediscover themselves, one small shift at a time.✨ Doors officially open in early December! Learn more at https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about
Special note:This episode was recorded and released on Remembrance Day, honouring those who have served and sacrificed for our freedom. May we carry their spirit of resilience as we work toward peace within ourselves and in the world around us.Connect with Lisa:
Watch the episodes on YouTube
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/selflovecoachingco
TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thelisahardie
Website → www.selflovecoachingco.com
 
🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with a friend who needs a little reminder: You are worth showing up for. Always.